How to Not Offend Your North Jersey Family Members at the Thanksgiving Dinner Table

Phil Stilton
Family arguing at dinner on Thanksgiving

TOMS RIVER, NJ – Many residents of Ocean County, a predominantly Republican-leaning county at the Jersey Shore has a unique challenge during the holiday season. While the county is a strong Republican center, most of the people who live there have transplanted from North Jersey and New York, two prominently Democrat-leaning regions.

So, political talk at the Thanksgiving dinner table could go south if you get involved in a heated political debate while passing the stuffing.

In preparation for Thanksgiving, residents of Ocean County, a predominantly Republican area, share ftips with us for managing political and worldly discussions, especially when hosting liberal relatives from North Jersey.


Thanksgiving, a time for family and gratitude, often brings together people with diverse political views. This dynamic is familiar in Ocean County, where residents gear up to welcome family members with differing opinions.

One approach emphasized is setting boundaries before guests arrive. Residents suggest establishing a mutual agreement to avoid specific topics. This preemptive measure aims to maintain a peaceful atmosphere.

Another strategy involves redirecting conversations. When discussions veer towards sensitive topics, hosts and guests alike can steer the conversation towards neutral subjects like shared interests or family memories.

Active listening is also highlighted as a crucial skill. Hosts can foster a respectful environment by showing genuine interest in others’ views without the intent to argue.

For unavoidable political discussions, locals recommend focusing on common ground. Finding areas of agreement can ease tensions and promote understanding.

We would suggest not even talking about Israel and Hamas at the table. Your North Jersey Democrat family members might lose control. Donald Trump, immigration, gas cars and gas stoves are other topics you probably want to avoid, unless you intend to trigger your North Jersey relatives.

The dinner table is also seen as a place for learning. Rather than engaging in debates, some suggest using the opportunity to understand different perspectives.

Finally, humor is identified as a valuable tool. Light-hearted jokes, when appropriate, can defuse tension and remind everyone of the familial bond beyond politics.

In summary, Ocean County residents advocate for a Thanksgiving centered on respect and understanding, regardless of political beliefs. Their shared tips offer a blueprint for harmonious family gatherings in a politically diverse setting.

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